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Solving Conflicts™ Chapter Index: Part One
Solving Conflicts has no equal in Character Coaching and Assessment. Why is that? Because we go way past simple Character Strength Identification into the world of Character Strength Misuse and the diagnosis of key areas of your character that produce your greatest success as well as your worst conflicts...
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Do You Want To Fight?
Is fighting a bad thing for relationships? Maybe it is! Maybe it is not! It depends on whether you are fighting for or against your relationship. If you are in a relationship (with Mom, Dad, Husband, Wife, Son, Daughter, Girlfriend, Boyfriend, Boss, etc. You get the picture), and if you are fighting against that relationship... of course, that is a counterproductive way to establishing a good relationship....
Diamonds or Rocks?
Many years ago, a slave in India came
into possession of a stone he thought could fetch him a fair price.
It was an intriguing steel blue stone, which at first glance looked
to be a very large sapphire. He looked for a naïve outsider who
he could swindle into paying far too much for the beautiful stone.
A French traveler happened to pass by. He approached him with the intention
of swindling the man out of his money....
A Little Out of Balance:
What in the world is character symmetry?
Let's focus on just the word symmetry. What does symmetry
mean? It means this: "Balanced proportions; also: beauty
of form arising from balanced proportions". So then, character symmetry
would mean having a character that is balanced.... It's as simple as that!
(Counterfeit VS Genuine Character)
Did you know that counterfeiting money
is one of the oldest crimes in history? That is a fact according to
the United States Secret Service. Truthfully, I could not tell you
whether I have ever passed counterfeit money or not. I have no idea
how to spot counterfeit money from genuine money. I have never had
that type of training....
Wet Sand Bricks & Blindfolds:
(What Is Character?)
Every time we think a thought;
every time we speak a word; every time we perform an action; every
time we interact with another person, we are forming our own character.
Building our character is like building a home.
Every choice that we make determines what kind of brick we are going
to use next in the building up of our character. The power of choice
is the most powerful thing on all the earth. No force of any kind known
to humanity can force people to choose contrary to their own will.
As we build our own character, the choices we made in the past begin
to influence what we are likely to choose next....
The World's Greatest Battle!
The word conflict implies there are two
opposing sides set against each other. War is conflict. In truth, each
conflict that we have with another is like a mini-war. At times, a
conflict may grow into a major battle. Other times, it stays in the
realm of an ongoing minor skirmish.
So then, what is personal conflict? Personal conflict is when one
is at war with their own self. That sounds a bit severe, does it not? It is
to be at war with your own self! To be in a war against your own self is not
necessarily a bad thing. However, the worst loss in the war against your own
self is suicide. Yet, self-conflict often results in victories ...not defeats!...
The World's Greatest Battle!
At the very heart
of conflict arises
the issue of dominant character strengths. Then, at the heart
of dominant character strengths arises the issue of genuine and counterfeit strengths.
In this chapter, we are going to look
more closely at these two to find out what is at the heart of them.
We have seen that the best way to identify a counterfeit is to compare
it to the genuine. So then, in terms of genuine character traits,
what is at the heart of them? It is true that love is at
the very heart of genuine character traits. Love in all its many
Solving Conflicts 101
You can have a clear idea of what Solving
Conflicts Part Two is by comparing it to this easy child's
fairy-tale. However, we have changed the story just a little bit
to illustrate an idea.
Will you imagine for a moment....
Solving Conflicts 102
about the genuine trait of Honesty:
IF you score high on Honesty, that is
a good thing.
IF you score low on Honesty, that could
mean that you lack Honesty.
IF you lack in Honesty, you may have the
opposite of that or Dishonesty.
You will be graded on 42 different genuine traits
to see if you have these.
Before You Accuse Me!
Why has it become so hard for people
to get along with other people?
How can things go so wrong between two people? How
can two lovers end up in a silent standoff? How can a marriage of professed
love end in a divorce that sometimes produces bitter conflict for a
Titanic Failure: It Could Never Happen To Me!
Perhaps more than any other disaster in modern history,
the sinking of the RMS Titanic has sparked more sorrow and shock; more
debate and speculation; more books and movies; and more metaphorical
lessons to learn than has any other tragedy.
Shortly after that great
tragedy, the designer of the Titanic said,...