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Solving Conflicts 102:
The Basics of Genuine VS Counterfeit Qualities
- First, think
about the genuine trait of Honesty:
- IF you lack in Honesty, you may have the
opposite of that or Dishonesty.
You will be graded on 42 different genuine traits
to see if you have these
...or lack these traits.
may be thinking that scoring high on a trait is always a good thing.
You may be thinking that scoring low on a trait is always a bad
thing. Neither is true in every case, as you will see:
When we misuse our genuine traits, they become
Each of the 42 genuine traits has an average
of three counterfeit traits.
- These occur when we misuse, over-use,
improperly use, or ineffectively use the genuine traits.
If you ever forget what turns a genuine trait into
a counterfeit trait, remember these two rules:
Rule #1: Counterfeit
traits always cause harm, injury,
or insult to others and conflict will be the result.
#2: (See rule #1)
Example A: When
we misuse Honesty to a fault, it does not become Dishonesty.
When Honesty is used to a fault, people get hurt.
Honesty, when used to a fault, turns into Outspokenness, Bluntness, Brutality, or
Indiscretion. Do not worry; the meanings will become clear
as you continue.
Example B: When
you use Fair-mindedness to a fault, it does not become Unfair-mindedness.
When fair-mindedness is used to a fault, people
get hurt. Fair-mindedness, when used to a fault, turns into Indecisive,
Indiscriminate, and Undiscerning. Again, do not worry! The
words and the meanings will become clear as you continue. Each
will be explained in detail.
All 42 genuine traits can be misused to a fault.
Solving Conflicts will measure you
for genuine traits that you misuse as counterfeit traits.
Please Note: If all of
this seems a bit unclear to you right now, please, do not be too
concerned about it. Little by little, it will all become crystal clear to
you as you continue.
Why is it a good thing to measure for counterfeit
Well, sad as it is, most people lean towards the
misuse of their genuine traits at least part of time. Often, we do
not even know what genuine traits we have. Most people would not have
even a clue which of their genuine traits they are misusing. We cannot
change or improve what we do not understand. Solving
Conflicts will make it easy for you to see your genuine and
So then, measuring your traits in this way will
reveal to you two very important things:
- You will see what
genuine traits you have (and whether you lack in them.)
- You will also see what genuine traits
you are misusing as counterfeit traits.
What can you gain from seeing your counterfeit trait
scores in comparison to your genuine trait scores? Consider this example:
learned this about Courage as it related to him:
He found out that his score for Courage was only
60. That is low. The highest score possible would have been 100. As
he continued looking at his scores, he saw something that got his attention.
He saw that he scored unusually high in counterfeit Courage. His scores
for counterfeit Courage were:
- Recklessness he scored 90
- Brashness he scored 70
- Brazenness he scored 100
As Joe read the Character Profiles in Part
Two, he could see his own self clearly. He could see how
his high scores for counterfeit Courage had caused big problems for
him in his life. However, in the past he did not understand what
caused some of his troubles. Finally, it was all starting to make
sense to him.
However, one thing was really puzzling Joe. Although Joe scored low on the
genuine use of Courage, he scored very high on the counterfeit use of Courage.
Joe had never seen himself as a man of Courage. The high scores for counterfeit
Courage told Joe that he had good potential to learn how to use genuine Courage.
Joe found out that he possessed a great deal of Courage that he could use in
a proper way.
The bad news was this: All through his life, Joe had been
misusing the abundant genuine Courage that he never new he had!
It was great news for Joe to learn how to use true Courage. It
helped him to avoid some of his bad troubles that had become so familiar.
His family and friends were happy to see the positive change as well.
In addition, the Solving Conflicts system will help you to help other willing people.
You will learn how to identify their character strengths and share
it with them in a positive manner.
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