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Titanic Failure - Oops! or Big OOPS!
(It Could Never Happen to Me!)
Perhaps more than any other disaster in modern history,
the sinking of the RMS Titanic has sparked more sorrow and shock; more
debate and speculation; more books and movies; and more metaphorical
lessons to learn than has any other tragedy.
Shortly after that great
tragedy, the designer of the Titanic said, "Everything
that could reasonably be thought of was done ... in order to minimize
the risk of ordinary accident."
Have you ever felt like that? Perhaps
you got up in the morning feeling confident and prepared. In your best
judgment, you believed that you had done everything you could reasonably
think of to do in order to minimize the risk of ordinary accident.
Your ship was sailing along confidently. All the passengers were
well cared for and comfortable.
Then unexpectedly, out of nowhere,
opposition arose ...an adversary
was in your midst. You never practiced a situation like that in a
drill. Then before you could blink your eyes, you realized that you
had a gapping hole in your starboard side, water was gushing in, your
ship was sinking, passengers were fleeing into the darkness of night
in their lifeboats and you were all alone in your Captain's Chamber
sinking with your ship.
Perhaps you have never personally had a day like
that, but I would venture to guess with a fair degree of certainty
that at least you know somebody who has.
While on the one hand, days
like that can certainly reveal our character, you understand ...the
stuff we are made of; on the other hand, our character may well determine
the likelihood of having days like that.
Are you confident that you
currently have whatever it takes to avoid disaster? Captain Edward
Smith of the Titanic apparently felt that way. That fateful day started
out like any other day. Upon his expected arrival in New York , Captain
Smith would retire from a long and uneventful career.
Before that fateful
day happened, Captain Smith said, "When
anyone asks me how I can best describe my experience in nearly forty
years at sea, I merely say, 'uneventful.' Of course, there have been
winter gales, and storms and fog and the like. But in all my experience,
I have never been in any accident ... or any sort worth speaking about.
I have seen but one vessel in distress in all my years at sea. I never
saw a wreck and never have been wrecked nor was I ever in any predicament
that threatened to end in disaster of any sort."
Is it possible ...dare
we even think it ...that if Captain Smith had
been using Solving Conflicts to
work on his own character issues that the entire Titanic disaster could
have been avoided?
On that fateful night, Captain
Smith was merely one good choice away from making a correct decision
that would have relegated his ship, his crew, and his passengers
a place in history that would have been uneventful and unknown. He
was but one good choice away from delivering his passengers to saftey
and a history far different than the one we watch at the movies. Have
you ever been just one good choice away from a day that would have
been uneventful, smooth-sailing, and trouble-free?
One thing that Captain Smith apparently
lacked was the character quality of alertness. He had been
warned seven times that very day of icebergs ...including
a direct warning just 49 minutes earlier from the ship Californian
just 19 miles away telling him that they were stopped and surrounded
by ice. A man who was in possession of the character quality of alertness would have readily heeded those warnings and either stopped or changed
course to avert potential disaster.
In advance of that day, if Captain Smith
had learned that he lacked in the quality of alertness,
he might have seen a radically better outcome that historical day. Focusing
on alertness might have been enough to inspire him with a greater
sense of caution that fateful night.
Simply put, are you truly doing all you can to avert
disaster in your own life by focusing on the matters of your own
Are you learning, little by little, to be helpful
to the character growth of those people who are closest to you?
these statistics. Do
they seem altogether too familiar? Perhaps you have seen this in
your own family history. The chances are good that you have seen
it ...maybe up close and personal.
Are you ready to say,
"The buck stops here?"
Is it time for you to begin making some changes for yourself by making better choices? If not now, when?
If you have not been to a really scary movie lately,
and if you are really in the mood to be shocked beyond belief, do an
internet search on divorce statistics or men who pay child
support or fatherless homes ...you get the picture! Consider
yourself warned. It is not a pretty sight. It's enough to make you
Is sorrow, divorce, broken relationships our
destiny in life? Do we have any better choices to make? We
must find better choices to make! The alternative is too grim
to say the least.
The following statistics are some of the
least frightening statistics
that we could find. Grab a box of tissues. Get a bowl of chocolate
ice-cream -- and cry! Because statistically speaking, this has either
already happened to your grand-parents, your parents, you, your children,
or it's going to happen to you or your children if
you don't intentionally do something to prevent it from happening.
Divorce Magazine reported
- In 1997, there were nearly 1.7 million divorces.
- In 1998, there were 19.4 million divorced adults.
- A marriage lasts 7.2 years on average before
- In 1995, 43% of all marriages will result in
divorce within the first 15 years.
- In 1997, 50% of all first marriages end in divorce.
- 60 percent of all remarriages end in divorce.
- 50% of all women cohabit before they turn age
- 70% of the couples that cohabit longer than five
years eventually get married.
- Since 1997, 2.5 million people get a divorce
- In 1996, children of divorce were 50% more likely
than their counterparts from intact families to divorce.
- 4.1 million single mothers never married.
- In 1997, 32% of all babies born were to unmarried
- Since 1997, 1 million children became the victims
of divorce annually.
- In 1998, 27% of family households with children
had only one parent.
- In 1998, 20 million children were living with
only one parent.
- In 1998, 84% of children living in single-parent
homes were living with their mother.
homes account for 63% of youth suicides, 90% of homeless/runaway
children, 85% of children with behavior problems, 71% of high school
dropouts, 85% of youths in prison, and well over 50% of teen mothers.
- In 1997, 80% of the divorces were due to irreconcilable
On average, the length of divorce proceedings
takes 1 year.
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